Well, tomorrow cable & phone get cut off...
Sunday im homeless... Monday electricity is gone... and by next Sunday
Im gone... so how does this make me feel? Well, today i feel content.
Maybe a bit nervous/skerd... but content nonetheless.
And now
i feel i need to leave everyone with some words of wisdom (or lunacy).
I could try to leave my legacy by doing what Dane Cook suggests and
find a kid with an ice cream and shoving it in his eyes and saying,
"YOU REMEMBER ME FOREVER". LOL... but instead i will just reflect on my
undergrad college years and offer what advice i can.
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Always keep your friends and family close. Hardships WILL come your way
and when all else fails, they will be there to lift you back up. Sure,
your family may not be the best, but its your family. Whether you
believe it or not, "blood is thicker than water" and one day they may
surprise you by being there when you least expect it. Same goes for
your friends; you may have ups and downs, you may argue sometimes, but
learn to get over it and move on. You will have stronger friendships
for it and those people who stick with you will be with you forever...
they are your true friends. Cherish and honor that love you get from
your friends and family and no amount of distance and time can break
those bonds.
DO NOT fall in love easily. I implore you... this
is important. 99 percent of relationships fail. Sure, you may meet some
girl or some guy that makes you happy but guard your heart. I am NOT
saying that you shouldnt love. I am saying to guard your heart from
those who would seek to steal it as a trophy. Understand that not
everyone is made for each other and do not hold grudges against your
former loves/relations. People and feelings will get hurt, but if you
hold feelings of hate and/or regret and/or grudges, you are only
hurting yourself. Do not be afraid to date and find out what you like.
God wants the best for you and you will never know who that is if you
jump at the first person who shows you interest. So i say again... dont
fall in love too easily... but do love deeply when you do... give it
your all because even if it ends, you will know there was nothing more
you could have done.
Forgive... learn to forgive if you dont
know how. Someone... somewhere... someday will do you wrong. Forgive
them and move on. I am not saying you have to condone or accept what
they did to you. But if you cannot forgive them, then they will win.
You will become bitter and angry and ultimately become that which has
wronged you. Even this part is hard for me sometimes and i have to
constantly force myself to just let go. Vengeance is for the Lord, not
for you. I am also not saying to be a pussy or a pushover, but simply
to forgive. They will get theirs. It may not be tomorrow, or next week,
or 10 years from now... but they will get whats coming to them one day
in either this life or the next. Forgive them and move on... you will
be the bigger and better person for it. Its
more who you know than what you know. Thats not say that learning is a
bad thing, all Im saying is not to sacrifice people skills for constant
learning and book knowledge. I luckily learned this bit of wisdom from
my father early on. There are numerous times where I hit a rock and a
hard place and it was my contacts and friends who plucked me out of it.
You may say, but I dont know how to make contacts but let me tell you
this. It doesnt take much. An occasional visit and a kind word works
wonders. But that means that you may have to sacrifice a night of
precious studying once and awhile to go to IHOP with your friends at
3am. I have made contacts and met people in the oddest situations. And
never hesitate to offer a helping hand if you are able to. One of my
most influential professors I met under odd circumstances. I met Dr.
Pondillo by simply coming to his aid when he needed a news graphics
person. I am not in news by any stretch and never took a class with
this man but I had a few friends that knew I did graphics and when
their teacher [Dr. Pondillo] needed a graphics guy, my name came up.
When approached by him I chose to help out in any way I could rather
than say no thanks, I really dont need any extra
work. I did what I could, when I could and he was grateful. When the
time came to apply to Grad school, I asked for a recommendation and he
was willing to write a fantastic one When I needed an extra class, he
created a practicum out of nowhere in order to get me 3 final credits.
He was willing to help me in my time of need because I had been willing
to help him in his. All it takes folks the majority of the time is
kindness and a willing heart. Im you are still with me thanks for listening to my limited advice. I appreciate it. Ok,
moving on towards the end. HAVE FUN! This is so, so, so important. Let
go sometimes and just have fun. Skip a class (if you can) and go play
Frisbee with your friends on a nice day. Take a road trip and get lost
and find the home of KFC. Walk in the park for no reason than to do it.
Go out to eat or to Wal-Mart at 3am in the morning. Laugh at yourself.
Just have fun. Im not saying to go crazy and stop taking
responsibility. There will be times when you will have to say NO and
get some actual work done. But dont be the person who sits in his or
her room and plays on the computer all day. Go out, meet new people
(this ties in with the whole networking idea), and have fun. Try new
things. Eat new foods. Meet foreign exchange students. And fun can be
free. It doesnt have to cost you a dime. If you want, you can make any
time a fun time. Here is a barrage of quick short ones. Learn
to take a joke. Sarcasm seems to run rampant in college, and if you
dont learn to take a joke, even one that involves you, you will take
offence to more than you probably should. Turn
off your phone sometimes. People survived before cell phones and so can
you. If you forget it, leave it. People will leave a message if they
want or will find you if you are really needed. If
you need to be alone and to disappear, then do it. Tell a couple people
and just be by yourself. We all need time alone sometimes to recharge
our batteries. Treat yourself. Dont be afraid to take yourself to a movie or out to eat sometimes. This is life, live it! Find
out who you are by yourself and single. When you know that and are
happy in it, then and ONLY then will you truly be able to know who you
are with a significant other and have a rich and fulfilling
relationship. Speaking of relationships, if
you are in one and want to be single, it doesnt matter the reason (if
there is even one), be single. Trying to stay and make it work will
just make it worse. Be honest. The truth may hurt sometimes, but it is always better than a lie. Try
and give people the benefit of the doubt at first. Sure, trust is
earned, but give them that chance to earn it instead of writing them
off. Learn from your mistakes. Dont sleep around. No ifs, ands or buts really folks, nobody likes a whore or a slut. And
since Im spent on wisdom for now, I will close with this. Things can
always be worse. No matter how bad things may get or how bad they seem,
things could always be worse. You may not know how, but trust me, they
could be. Instead; Hope. Hope for the best. Hope that people can
change. Hope; when others think that there is no hope left. Because
Hope can keep you alive and sane when you least expect it to. And have
faith that things will get better. Ohhh,
and on the subject of faith; Have faith in God. For those of you who
dont think He is out there. He is and He is closer than you think. God
wants the best for you. He really does. Sure, life may get hard, he
never said it would be easy, but if you keep your faith in the Lord,
things will get better. You cant fix everything. Some things end up
being God sized disasters and only He can fix them. Let Him do it and
believe that He will. LOL! And dont believe
everything you see or hear on TV. I promise that the world isnt ending.
Here is how I know. NO ONE knows when it will end but trust me, you
will know when it does. Wars come and go, seasons change and along with
them comes some new natural disaster, gas prices go up and... well....
up.... LOL, but life goes on. God is ultimately in control. He will
decide when the world will end and when He does there will be nothing
you can do to stop it. Quit freaking over everything, turn off the
news, and go outside and enjoy life. Once you stop listening to all
this crap on TV all the time you too will start to realize that
everything is going to be alright. -------------------------------------------------------------------------- I
love you all, since I am losing internet I dont know when I will post
again. But I will let you know how things went down when I can. LOL,
make good choices, keep in touch, and I will see you on the flip side. And since i am moving, here is
my new contact info:
Patrick Garcia
gciaina@hotmail.com
If you ever need my address or number, email me. Im
going to VA for a few months and then GA (Lord willing). I will see you all on
the flip side!
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